Dr. Ava:

Some of the best places to have the STD talk? is after dinner when the check has been paid, in a dog park while watching pooches going at it doggie style, or after a friendly bowling match. It gives you both the freedom to leave if the conversation becomes uncomfortable.

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Your attitude will convey how you feel about yourself and your date; don't sound apologetic or anxious. You can even practice what you're going to say beforehand so that you feel more confident.

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Try something like this:

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I care about you and like being with you, so before we fool around, I want to tell you what I've been tested for and share my results. I do have the human papillomavirus, as well as herpes. Both are treatable?and there are means of having safer sex. I want you to feel free to ask me any questions and I'd also like to know what you've been tested for.

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Respect their emotions but don't tolerate any disrespect to you personally.